Victoria's Homework Night Empowers Parents

Parent Homework Night

The purpose of Homework Night is to help parents be relieved of the nightly stress of trying to reteach homework and make a shift to a Homework Coach.

The Session:

  1. Introduces the parents to the neuroscience of memory that we have shared with their children, so they share common knowledge of the brain with their chldren. This information helps the parent make the shift in thinking necessary for them to be comfortable with changing how they have handled homework.
  2. We share the steps we take to help students develop the skills they need to become independent homework managers.
  3. We share the time management strategies and ask that they include their child in knowing what activities await them at the end of the day, so they can plan to use recess or lunch recess to get started on homework.
  4. We ask that they continually keep us informed as to what they are seeing at home, so we can address it in a general context during demystification sessions. One child's issue is usually another's. 
  5. We encourage the parents to allow their chldren to make choices no matter how crazy they seem. The results will determine if the choice was one that allowed them to show their best selves or if they need to make a different choice. 

Role of a Homework Coach:

  1. Encourages their children to ask questions before they leave class to insure they can handle the homework independently.
  2. Offers alternative behaviors to having a hissy fit when the homework becomes challenging.
  3. Offers strategies for accessing long term memory
  4. Encourages their children to take the questions they could not answer to the teacher the next day.
  5. Offers strategies for speaking to teachers about what they don't understand 
  6. Supports the concept that teachers can not read student’s minds, so the student needs to communicate their lack of understanding by the students being specific about what they don’t understand. 
  7. Embraces mistakes as opportunities for improvement and asks what the child will do differently
  8. Is patient during the learning process
  9. Does not expect everything to be perfect
  10. Helps their children live balanced lives
  11. Allows children to experiment with management of technology and devices, so they can learn to control their device use instead of the device controlling them.

Helpful Strategies 

 Take a break

 Get a drink of water

Go for a short bike ride or walk

Take some long deep breaths and calm yourself

Skip the problem and come back to it

Highlight the key terms that tells their pen or pencil what to do

Skip the problem- often the answer of another question will be a clue to the answer of the problem that creates frustration.

Visualize what was on the board during instruction. Take a mental trip back to the class to refresh your memory.

Try to recall what the teach said by replaying the audio of her instruction in your mind.

Look at notes

Check the book for an explanation or hints

Form three questions to ask the teacher the next day about what was unclear. Try to answer them. (Often the question leads them to finding the answer independently)

 

In Homework Solutions for the Weary Student and Their Parents I address the 39 most common challenges with homework and the language students can use to communicate their needs to any teacher they may encounter. 

In Homework Solutions: A Parent Guide, I offer the science behind memory and why making the shift to Homework Coach is more beneficial in the long run for their children.