Training Device Management Begins With Awareness April 21, 2019 17:45
Advertising Strategies Used By Game Makers
- FREE is the most powerful word game makers use. They attract players because it is free. Once players are hooked, they use different methods for coaxing players to purchase internet currency. Players are often offered ways to buy passes or clues, so they can achieve new goals in the game. The first thing I noticed in several games I explored was an offer to purchase online currency. Most games' goals are to get the users to purchase this currency or to watch ads posted by companies that sponsor the games. Ads are placed strategically throughout the games. There are also ads offering players the option to play Ad Free for a small purchase of $.99 a month. Multiply .99 by 10 million users and the game maker is doing quite well. Once they get their game user addicted to the game, they have guaranteed income.
- Educational is a key word that give parents a false sense of game value. It can make one feel the game will do no harm if the children are learning something. Many children, 10 million or more, are playing a popular social media centered game for FREE that advertises itself as educational.
- “Your Friends Can Play” is a lure to satisfy our brain's innate desire to interact with others. It is just another way game makers' activate the pleasure center of our brains.
- Free Daily Bonus is another strategy used in marketing. It gets the users to come back everyday for the FREEBIES.
- Cereal Box Offers are a common advertising method to grab children’s attention. Once they go to the website to play the free games, they are a captured audience. Players tend to spend an average of 27 minutes on the cereal sites, which is enough time to grab their attention about new products.
- Hook Loops are designed to get users to go back to their game because users are notified when someone liked their entry or outscored them in a game.
- Loot Boxes are mysterious boxes that can be purchased with real money or internet currency. Purchasers don’t know if they are getting an ordinary item or a rare one. They have to make the purchase to find out.
- Behavior Modification works by offering rewards or incentives to keep the user playing.
- Attention testing is used to track the user's pattern. Then, an algorithm is created to increase the user's engagement. If a player usually plays for 30 minutes, the game will be programed to make an offer of a free item at 29 minutes. This is designed to keep the player engaged and extend the normal playing time. A banner may appear that says, “You are almost there. You only need fifty points to make it to the next level.”
As students begin seeing these strategies in their games, they will become critical about what they view. This will be a necessary life skill for motivating them to control their use. They need this skill because technology is and will continue to be a part of their future.
I recommend the following videos for more insight into the impact of video games on all of us.
Cheating: Cause and Cure October 31, 2014 06:49
Cheating can be a sign a student is stuck. Having high expectation for oneself can lead a student to resort to cheating. Many times these students are penalized, this does not change their situation. They are often labeled bad students.
Because they have not been taught to recognize what it feels like to be stuck and then how to get unstuck.
Stephanie was working on math concepts and asked to go to the bathroom. After returning ten minutes later, she resumed her attempt at solving a few problems. Five minutes later, her peer informed me she was cheating.
Her sudden desire to go to the restroom was the first sign of a struggle. The first sign of the stress response is to flea. In nature, the first thing that animals do for a quick get-away is to eliminate any waste that could slow them down. We are no different. When we feel stressed for any reason, it is natural to suddenly have to use the bathroom. So, when a student suddenly has to use the bathroom, it could be due to the fight or flight response because they are lost, confused, don't know how to get started, or are afraid the teacher will get mad at them.
1. Students must understand that it is okay to not know how to do what the teacher just taught. Reassuring them that their questions about what is confusing helps the teacher be more effective in teaching them. Being bright is not going to save them from experiencing "not knowing."
2. Students must over-come the fear of asking questions. There is a belief that questions will make them look dumb in front of their peers. My video will help them see the value of their questions and them overcome this common fear. Please have them watch it.
3. As soon as students feel like it's time to visit the bathroom, have them ask themselves, "Am I stuck. Do I need to ask a question?" Then have them determine the exact part of the question that is confusing.
4. Help them realize that cheating means they feel they shouldn't struggle. Tenacity is the one characteristic that sets one researcher who can cure a terminal disease apart from another researcher who falls short. Struggle is the one thing that will cement a concept. Working through the challenge gives a good feel of accomplishment that prevents dendrites from pruning.
5. Teachers will want to remind themselves that if a student cheats, they don't know another way of overcoming an obstacle. They simple need another way of handling the challenge. This requires trying different things until a strategy is found that works.
Perfectionism Paralyzes October 30, 2014 20:42
I presented at a conference this weekend. I met many wonderful teachers and parents. I will be addressing their questions here, so everyone can learn from their challenges. My goal is to offer strategies teachers and parents can add to their backpacks before they need them.
Questions: How do I deal with a perfectionist?
Dr. David Walsh stated, "There is difference between perfectionism and striving for excellence. Perfectionism is a profound fear of mistakes."
Embracing mistakes as indicators that there might be a better way or a better answer is not an indicator that one is not smart enough. In fact, making mistakes and learning from them by changing what didn't work is smart!
Strategy: Evaluate mistakes and decide, "What can I do next time to avoid this mistake?' Ask yourself, "What did I learn from this mistake?" Then celebrate the learning opportunity. Parents: Shift your review of mistakes from over reacting to the mistake to celebrating the opportunity it offers.
Three weeks into her freshman year, I received a distressed call from my daughter. "I don't belong here. I am not smart enough to be here." Once she settled down, I was able to determine that the she was judging her ability to manage college life by one event.
To help this make sense, let me give you a little background. After taking AP courses in high school, my high achieving daughter decided to attend an honors college on the opposite side of the country. She had gained confidence taking the AP courses, so she felt prepared for this big change. To help herself adjust to the new environment, she retook Psych 101 even though she could have opted out of it. The first week the professor assigned a small paper on a topic she had researched in high school. So, in hopes of building a relationship early on in the class, she visited the professor to ask if he would look at her paper and see if she was on the right track. The professor was impressed and returned the paper the next day riddled with red pen. This devastated her. She was certain the paper would be returned with rave reviews, because this same paper got an "A" from her high school AP Psychology instructor. She judged her ability to manage the class by the criticism of this professor. I shared another way of looking at it. "You do belong there. Your high school teacher was looking for one thing from your paper. This professor is looking for another. He just handed you back an "A" paper. Go do the research and give him what he wants. If you handed that paper to sixteen different professors, you'd get sixteen different types of corrections. So go give this professor what he wants."
Not only did that make her feel better, it taught her a way to make sure she is on the right track for each of her future professors.
Lesson One: Asks instructors to look at your papers a few days before they are due to see if you are on the right track. The feedback from each professor will be different. The only one you want correcting your paper is the person who will be grading you.
I once heard a student stay, "I read the text book and research the topic of each class I take before the class, so I will be able to answer the instructors questions and know what is going to happen in the class." This student shared she was fearful of being called upon and not knowing the answer.
Another student shared how getting anything less than an "A" on a paper was unacceptable because she was bright and that was the expectation. She struggled with turning in papers in fear that they would return with something less than the expected "A."
Many students feared asking questions in class because they feared being dropped from a college class. They had a common misconception. They believe questions are an indicator they are not smart enough for the class. This is inaccurate. The truth is, professors want their students to ask questions so they can be sure they are being clear. It's impossible to teach the same way year after year without questions.
Next Blog Topics: Cheating and Overcoming Boredom
A Stuffed Animal Helps Promote Self-Compassion September 13, 2014 16:17
Many of our children are too hard on themselves. I love how one of my mothers was able to help her child be more self-compassionate when she made a mistake. The following is what she shared with her child when the child had difficulty with a homework assignment.
"I had to deal with my daughter who forgot homework at school. Of, course, this sent her into a tizzy. I reassured her that she could go in early the next day and do the homework, and the she resisted that idea stating that she was going to miss Hall of Fame anyway."
(FYI-Homework is not late unless it is turned in after 8:30. Coming in early is one solution).
I again reassured her that it was okay, but the she insisted, "It is NOT!" So I took her stuffed dog, who we pretend also goes to school. I said to her, "Your dog forgot his homework today too, and is going to miss Hall of Fame? Are you going to tell him 'bad dog' or that it's okay?" She smiled and said, "It's okay, ----." The dog got a hug. I got a hug and she went to sleep. :). She is much kinder to her stuffed animal than to herself."
Learning to accept a mistake as an opportunity to change is how we benefit from the mistakes we make. If we beat ourselves up every time we make a mistakes, our bodies would be permanently bruised. Learning to fall, pick yourself up, and try something new at a young age is a gift we can give our children.
"Last Night's Homework Was a Disaster!" September 13, 2014 16:00
Hearing the challenges that other parents experience at home with the nightly "Homework Madness" and the rather rapid transition to tranquility, speaks more for this program than anything I can say.
I have asked my parents to share what they are observing at home, while they remove or try to remove themselves from homework.
I will be posting the observations of my parents as they transition into the "Homework Solutions" method of handling homework challenges.
Here are a few of the communications I have received thus far with only four days into homework:
This is from the first night of homework. The following story is about an eight year old boy:
"My son had a very hard time with the spelling workbook on Monday night. He sat down to do the “riddle” section and reverted to a screaming like a 2 year old when he hit the question "today’s feel = yesterday’s ______.”
I know this was the stumper because he was reading it out loud after being unable to answer it silently. I said go on to the next one if he couldn’t figure it out, and the next one was about the 3 little pigs story. In the age of iPads, I guess we missed harping on the Mother Goose rhymes and other fables with him, and this particular story was not in his vocabulary. I was across the table working on a big presentation for Tuesday morning, and he could not handle the fact that I wouldn’t get up from behind my computer and come read the workbook with him. If I hadn’t been so busy working furiously to polish off my own work, I just might have been tempted to do so! He gradually worked it all out by process of elimination I guess, because when I asked after school Tuesday if anyone else brought their workbook to school with answers missing (figuring he would be one) he said he got it all filled in. But it took many rounds of pausing the NFL game, fighting, going upstairs for a shower, trying again on the homework, pausing the game, bellyaching about how stupid the workbook/homework is, pacing around to cool off, threatening to throw the book in the messy kitchen trash bin, and finally just getting it done. "
The next day, the children shared the challenges they had with the previous night's homework. He was not alone. I actually threw a temper tantrum to demonstrate what some children have done in the past. They laughed at the absurdity of my actions. Then they shared how they solved the challenges. This young man shared that he used process of elimination to solve the problem, but neglected to share the hissy fit he did before he solved it.
I received the following email the next day:
"Tuesday was a completely different story. He didn’t even ask to watch TV first. He just sat right down at the table, took out his book, and plugged away at what looked like a math worksheet. Didn’t ask for help once."
Yes, the transition to tranquility can be that fast with the right tools.
Ending Homework Madness Week One September 12, 2014 06:50
Homework Anxiety and the fear of the unknown are a horrible way to begin a new year. By their own admission, my third graders entered my classroom two weeks ago full of fear and anxious about not having help at home with homework. The unknown is always scary.
"One's perception is one's truth until someone shows them they are wrong." Author unknown.
It didn't take me long to make them feel comfortable. I had a job to do, because they knew their homework the year before was not possible to done alone, so this fueled their fear. Their truth was validated by their previous experience.
My job is to relieve that anxiety and change their perception to "I am capable of doing my homework alone. I know my job and if I make sure I know how to do everything on my homework before I leave the class, I will be able to do my homework without a problem!"
Getting the children to this point took a few steps:
1. They were given a "Homework Notebook" that contained their agenda, a pencil bag, and pockets in the notebook labeled "To Do-Incomplete" and "Completed."
2. The front cover housed a list of the steps to the "Homework Habit."
3. The "Homework Habit" begins the moment they enter the classroom and ends the next day when they turn the work in. (A Training Tape will be available soon that demonstrates the process so students feel comfortable with it).
4. I offered opportunities to look at their homework "as if" they are going to do it right away. This will allow them to determine what is clear and what is not. Their job as a student is to communicate what they do not understand. I shared my "Nuts and Bolts" story with them. (Read it in my archived blogs).
5. Questions are answered offering strategies for solving the challenge, never answering the question or doing anything for the child that the child can do for him/herself. Parents will read aloud to their children, when the child needs to be taught how to read aloud. I will address this method, along with others, in my future blogs.
6. The students learn about the brain and how it works. This information deals with the stress response, how to activate the brains filter to know what to focus upon, why they might forget a concept by the time they get home, and why they might not know how to do an item on the homework. This knowledge makes it okay for them to ask questions.
7. Students learn why teachers might say, "There is no such thing as a stupid question," but may make you feel stupid for asking one. Demystifying teacher's reactions is very powerful.
I will be blogging about the events that occur in my classroom since they change year to year, and the situations the parents are dealing with at home, so we can all learn from each other.
If you are a teacher and would like to share challenges your children are having, email them to me and I will add them to the blog.
If you are a parent and want some help with the challenges you deal with at home, email me and I will do the same in my blog.
Here's to a new beginning of the school year!!
He Should, She Should March 22, 2014 17:48
When I was a toddler, my mother took me to the doctor for a regular checkup. After examining me and asking a few questions about developmental benchmarks, he turned to my mother and said, “Victoria should be talking by now.” You can imagine how alarmed my mother became. His “should” intimated that I was developmentally behind.
In retrospect, my mother is glad that I didn’t start talking any sooner than I, because she claims that once I started speaking, I never stopped. I talked when I was supposed to and not one minute before. Truly, I really was smarter than the doctor thought. After all, my sister spoke for me. She was older and could get me what I wanted much more quickly than I could with my limited vocabulary.
How many times have we heard someone say we “should have” done something else when what we did resulted in less than desirable results? How many times have we said these words to ourselves? Is hearing or saying these words ever productive? Or, are they simply judgmental, resulting in negative feelings?
Giving these questions careful thought, it’s become clear to me that these words have never once produced anything but guilt and/or negative feelings.
The dictionary defines the word ‘should’ as, “used to indicate obligation, duty, or correctness, typically when criticizing someone's actions.” It is one’s subjective opinion of what another is capable of doing based on one’s own experiences and beliefs.
On any given day at school, I hear ‘shoulds’ and ‘if you had’s’ used all over campus in reference to a student’s or colleague’s actions.
Many misunderstandings happen because we only see things through our own eyes. According to Stephen Covy in his book The Seven Habits of Successful People, we are all guilty of prejudging others. He suggests we put ourselves in another’s place, so we find out why they haven’t done what we thought they “should have” done. If we did, we might respond differently to them.
Replacing “should haves” with “how can I support you?” we might find we misjudged the other person.
If we could walk in another’s shoes, we might see that they are too tight. V. Olivadoti
Guilt is unproductive. Telling anyone “they should have” done something differently creates guilt in the one being judged. It does not promote behavioral changes that would create different results.
I believe people set out to create positive results. If they anticipated the negative results, they would have done something different. Unless mentally unstable, people do not set out to create negative results deliberately.
I believe, “If students knew how to do things differently, they would.”
No one deliberately misses due dates. No one really wants to have a desk that looks like a tornado hit it. No one wants a backpack that is stuffed with crumpled papers. But even the best of students do. Would they change if they could? I say absolutely and emphatically, YES!!!”
Communication of One's Needs Creates Winners January 5, 2014 19:05
In July I shared the story of a graduate student who was experiencing some anxiety about the physiology class he was going to be taking. He had heard horrible things about the professor. The common belief was that the professor expected everyone to know everything from the perquisite class. However, for many of the students, it could have been as much as two years prior to taking his class.
I encouraged him to send off an email to the professor stating that he wanted to be prepared for the class and since it had been eighteen months since he took the prerequisite class, he planned on reviewing the material and wanted to be sure that would prepare him for the class. He was surprised to receive a friendly email in which the professor mentioned he would like the student to introduce himself the first day so he could put a face with a name. His perception of this professor changed immediately.
I ran into this student after not seeing him for several months. I inquired about his experience with the professor, and his response was very positive. He said that the professor made sure that he understood every concept in class before he moved on to a new topic. This eliminated the need for tutoring. He ended up with an 89.7% in the class. Since he developed a relationship with the professor, he was able to convince him to bump his grade up .3% to earn an “A,”
He wished he had known this information when he was a freshman and has encouraged me to share it with more students.
How Homework Solutons Began November 8, 2013 12:02
About twenty years ago I was told, “Homework is a bonding experience for parent and child.” My gut reaction was to feel this colleague’s forehead to see if she was running a fever — clearly she was experiencing delirium.
I don’t know about you but, in my home, the sign of homework coming out of the backpack created a bit of anxiety. I won’t even talk about what happened when a project came home.
This all changed when I finally reached a point of no return. The negative emotions connected to homework lasted long past the homework being completed. he sweet times we once had at bedtime were replaced with one or both of my daughters going to sleep exhausted from the struggle they encountered with each night’s assignments.
Many nights, there were so many different assignments that it affected their bedtime. The struggles were directly related to assignments that were clearly above my children’s ability. Projects that could not be done without me doing practically all of it were creating stress in our home and interfering with my personal time. And this was just first grade.
Out of desperation, I did something that eliminated this stress for the remainder of my children’s educational experience. I announced one night, “I am done with this homework. I already did first grade. Do not come home tonight with homework that you do not understand how to do! Take time to look at it first as if you are going to do it tonight and ask your teacher for the help, so when you come home tomorrow you know how to do the assignment.”
I had come to a realization: If I were to stop doing homework with my girls, I would have to teach them how to ask for help. That’s the day “Homework Solutions for Weary Students” was born.
My instruction at home shifted from teaching math and language concepts, to providing my girls with strategies that would allow them to get any teacher they encountered to explain concepts in a way that helped them understand. It was a new challenge but one that had life changing benefits.
Surprisingly, it did not take long to get my daughters to overcome the fear of asking for help.
There were two benefits that resulted from this shift.
The first was that my children were able to come home and complete their homework independently.
The second benefit was one I never expected. As a result of my daughters asking for clarification, the teachers were alerted to the fact that some homework assignments were not at an independent level. This resulted in some of girls’ teachers taking a different approach to homework. They began asking the children if there were any questions about the homework before the children left class. Once this was initiated in the classroom, homework stress was eliminated from our home.
In many cases, teachers realized the projects were not appropriate for independent completion, and they replaced the projects with ones that were or eliminated the assignment completely. You can imagine my relief!!!
Your children too are capable of changing education from the inside out. I’ve seen it work. Children yield more power than one would believe. Students, as young as five years old, are capable of communicating their needs and getting those needs met without parents talking to the teacher.
With the mission in mind of empowering other children with the strategies that were successful for my children, and the hundreds I have taught over the past twenty years, I will be sharing the challenges we encountered in our journey and the way we solved them. My goal is to help parents eliminate the stress they experience while also empowering children with life skills that will take them from kindergarten to college. No more homework havoc in the home!
Gaining Confidence is Like Riding a Bike October 6, 2013 16:03
The following question was sent to me this week: My third grade child is panicked that I will leave the room when she is doing her homework. She wants me there in case she doesn’t know how to do her homework.
The following is the answer:
School success is like riding a bike. Sometimes you just have to skin a few knees, fall down, and pick yourself up again to know that you can succeed alone. If I am riding a bike with training wheels, I will never learn if I can ride without them.
This actually happened to me. I was given a nice new Schwinn when I was five years old. It came with its own training wheels. The bike was a beautiful shiny blue and the training wheels complimented it beautifully.
My parents told me that these wheels would keep me balanced while riding, so I assumed it was the only way to ride this bike. I loved riding my bike, but wished I was grown up enough to go without them. My older sister, who was four years older than me didn’t have these wheels. I believed my parents when they told me I needed them to help me ride the bike.
Until one day. I am two and a half years older than my younger sister. My parents found a used bike for her, since she clamored for one of her own. This bike sat in the garage waiting to have it’s training wheels applied. My sister, not knowing any different, got on the bike and rode off.
I was shocked. Here I thought I needed those wheels. I begged to have them removed and my father asked me if I thought I was ready. Of course I was ready, after all, if my younger sister could do it, what would make them think I couldn’t. I visualized myself riding off into the sunset. It was so clear to me, that I knew I could do it. Did I ride off without the wheels? No, I fell over and over again, until I recognized that I could no longer lean from side to side like I was able to with the trainers. I was determined. I suffered many skinned elbows and it is a wonder that I even learned to ride without breaking an arm. But I did.
This event is one that makes me feel great pride. It didn’t come easily, and until I took off the training wheels, I had no idea I could do it on my own. Yes, I failed one or two times, but the joy I felt after riding successfully without falling was worth all the skinned elbows. My younger sister doesn’t even remember learning. It holds no great pride for her. It came easily and therefore was taken for granted. For me it was like climbing Mt. Everest.
There are two lessons here: 1. If we think we need help, we do. 2. The thrill of success is often preceded by failures we overcome. For our children to experience the thrill of success, they must also learn how to face challenges to see that they can handle it alone, make mistakes, and pick themselves up after having failed.
By offering strategies for dealing with homework challenges, your children will become confident that they can be successful alone. Encourage them to make sure that they look at the homework before they leaves the class to be sure they understand the entire assignment. This strategy will take them further than your helping them.
Be prepared for expressions of insecurity, because that is a natural reaction. The more they overcome the challenges, the more confident they will be.
I am often asked, "When should I begin expecting my children to do their homework independently."
I started in first grade.
Parents who have been through my program in the past, start much early with their younger children because they see how easy it is, and they love the power it gives their children to get their needs met from any teacher they may have.
Tricks for Remembering October 5, 2013 12:06
Stress can be eliminated in our lives when we learn strategies for solving problems. The Homework Solutions' Method of teaching is designed to help students collect a Backpack Full of Strategies that are life skills.
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