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Covid was a gift to my third grade students. I had been training them in how to be resilient since September 2019 and their skills were put to the test.
I may not share the feelings of a lot of people, because I believe covid learning has been a wonderful opportunity for my training to be tested to the max.
My resilient students not only survived covid isolation and the changes that have occurred since March of 2020, they gained confidence from the challenges presented to them.
The students who relied heavily on the support of their parents have had the hardest time.
The students who understood how to pivot, persist, problem solve, and prevail were given a real life challenge to apply all the resilient building strategies they learned starting in September of 2019. This situation that everyone thought was horrible and was going to leave their children behind, was actually the biggest confidence builder my students could get.
No matter the learning environment your children are in, begin teaching them resilience today.
Building resilience starts with seeing mistakes as opportunities for them to come up with solutions separate from anyone else. Don't let them turn to you or the internet. Let them try several ways to solve challenges independently, until they find the solution that works. If they have a problem with something at school, ask them how they think they can fix it and offer solutions to the teachers.
Edison tried 9,999 ways to come up with a filament that would work, and when asked about the failures, he stated, “None of them were failures, they were just ways that didn't work. I was looking for the one way that worked.” As children grow to see their mistakes and challenges as opportunities and are allowed to independently try ways to solve them, they will gain confidence. Parents role can shift to that of a cheerleader. The more patient parents and teachers are as children learn to tap into their innate abilities to solve their own challenges, the farther the students will go once they gain confidence to take risks.